Elasticity of relationships

The principal idea of elasticity states:
"As the extension, so the force".
This is definitely not a class of physics.But it only shows how science governs the dynamics of relationships ,yes interpersonal relationships.
When two individuals involved in a relationship are together for every meal,every movie,every outing then an inertia creeps into the relationship.There is not much left to discuss,to discover.The enthusiasm and the spark tht was burning bright in the initial stages of their relationship fizzles out.Similar to a spring which loses its elasticity and purpose when not strained or pulled.

But when the two work all day,meet up for dinner,go out with respective friends sumtimes,go out together other times, giving each other enough time to miss each other,then the nectar of their relationship sweetens.The distance and the brief moments spent together make them long for each other even more,keeps the charm alive.Similar to a spring that stores potential energy when stretched and snaps back with vigour when released.

However like a spring every relationship has an elastic limit.
For deformations beyond the elastic limit, atomic bonds get broken or rearranged, and a spring may be permanently deformed.Hence the elastic limit should not be exceeded to avoid the permanent deformation of any relationship.

"The Great Wall of China"

"I am not a very articulate person."
The most profoundly used cliche to escape many confrontations.
What is it tht pulls us back from being expressive? Is it the inability to think? Lack of time? Dearth of proper adjectives or words to describe what we feel? Inability to put thought to words? Think again!!!
Maybe its this wall tht we've built around ourselves which we do not want anyone to cross.In three words "Maintain safe distance".
In technical terms a Root Cause Anaysis of the building of this wall would help answer the
question "Why?"
As kids we trusted anyone and everyone from our mom,dad,siblings,grand-parents,friends to
school teachers,the peons,the rickshawalas.
As we grew older we fought with friends,we saw dad fight with mom,mom fought with the maid.This is when mistrust hit our impressionable tender souls.
This was when the wall had started building its foundation.As time flew by each and every experience added or knocked off a brick to/from the wall.
Then came a time when we fell in love.Love swept us off our feet.When love was not returned
the wall around us thickened.And thus the wall was built and nurtured to make the inarticulate persons tht we stand today.
When someone tries to befriend us why does the mind go skeptical.Does he/she have ulterior
motives?
We even fail to give pure,harmless,platonic intentions their true stand.
The bottomline is we have grown fearful.
Afraid of heartaches?
Afraid of deception?
Afraid of failure?
Afraid of rejection?
Afraid of lonliness?
Its a wild world out there with ferocious animals awaiting to tear you down.Let the wall
show its tenacity and density in tht crazy jungle.But when home with loved ones we should dilute the wall to infinitesimil and let vulnearability blossom our ruffled leaves with dewdrops of love and care

Do it anyway...

Warning:Plz excuse if u find this blog tooooooooooooooooooo philosophical...
"Ppl are often unreasonable,illogical and self centred;Forgive them
anyway"
Thts the "Do it anyway..." syndrome...
Isnt the above statement asking for too much..I mean how can one be so
untouched by rude behavior..

What this statement probably means can be interpreted as explained very
well by the two world concept..

There are two worlds inside every individual:

The outer world and the inner world
The outer world is formed by our loved ones, the workplace,our job,our
home, pleasant & unpleasant circumstances,climate,polticians,unwanted
relatives,disgusting neighborhood & illness.

The inner world is formed by thoughts,feelings and the roller coaster
ride that the mind boards more often than not.

The inner world should be kept untouched by the outer world..
But our beloved by default becomes a part of the inner world..How do we
push him/her to the outer world...How can we be untouched by any
rude/shrewd comments...
By accepting two very imp clauses the "Do it anyway.." task becomes a
cake walk..
Accept tht life,ppl,feelings,circumsatances will eventually change.
Be available to the needs of your loved ones...

All this sounds a lot too preachy....But this is the true Art of living..

Aspirations

As a child I had always wanted to become a doctor.When I got to the 8th Std I realised that studying Biology and Zoology all ones life wasn't a joke.
When in 12th Std decided to get into Engineering...(As I secured better marks in Maths than in Science which further proved that I would make a horrible doctor)..
Scraped through four torturous,nerve wrecking,painstaking,mind boggling,hair raising years of Engineering with a sense of having achieved one of the most respectable degrees in a duration of not more than four years.
The pride I took in the Engg degree I had earned started to fade soon after. Courtesy:IT Recession of 2002.
I had always thought that I had studied enough,learnt enough,read enough,given 48+5 papers & 24 practicals over 4 years.Now wasn't that sufficient to get me a job? Probably it wasn't..
Thought of becoming a singer..Yeah a bathroom singer.. :)..But there was loads of competition..So dropped the idea.
Then decided to bell the CAT and get into the IIMs..but the CAT dodged me and got away..
Finally landed on Venus...Venus???..an all girls MBA school..
Doesn't sound happening...does it?
Believe me,the first few days I cursed my self for having got into this college.
But eventually realised it wasn't as bad an experience.
MBA taught me a lot,distracted me not an inch (obviously no Adams to keep me off the ground) and of course got me a job.
Now an IT Professional for 1.5 years I feel this is not what I want to do for the rest of my life.
How about becoming a news reader or a journalist?...a Barkha Dutt in the making..
Catch me on a news channel..soon..Amen :)
Aspirations can be so volatile,airy,superficial..and so not grounded..I wonder where I am heading.. :)

New Year Resolutions

Resolution!!!!
The one thing I think of on every New Year's eve.
What is it that I would do in the year ahead to make life bigger not longer (:D) ?
-Exercise
-Meditate
-Eat healthy
-Do sum charity
-Laugh my heart out once everyday
-Work hard
-Increase my bank balance
-Invest
-Speak when asked to... (:D
-Daily Prayer:Please God,put your arms around my shoulders and your hand over my mouth.
-Meet up with friends more often
-Shop Shop and Shop
-Love lose and love anyways :)
-Compete with colleagues :)
-Pray
-And live not just breathe....

I know its a long list :D.Hope to stick by them :D

My First Blog

A little nervous..a little baffled..dont know what to write and how to start...
Ok..here i go....A small prayer to start this new beginning with a new "ME"

A little prayer..
Hope to make an interesting blog everytime....starting with the New Year...a new start...a new phase in my life...a new perspective..a new job..Keeping my fingers crossed n hoping for miracles to happen..:D...(thts asking for too much ..aint I?)

Happy reading...